In our Mishna on Amud Aleph, a bachelor is referred to as a Ravak, with its Hebrew root being רק, meaning empty. As I've emphasized numerous times in the Psychology of the Daf, Hebrew is a language rich in meaning, and delving into the roots of words provides extraordinary anthropological and psychological insights.

According to the Wikipedia entry, the English word "bachelor" has an unknown origin, with its first attestation in the 12th century, where it referred to a young knight. The word in English carries connotations of a young person who is not yet fully initiated, both professionally and personally, into adulthood, often through marriage. (It's worth noting that some secular dictionaries, when encountering words with a apparent Hebrew origin, tend to stop at Greek and other ancient languages without considering Hebrew at all. Since the word "bachelor" lacks a known origin, the phonetic similarity to "Bochur," meaning a young student in Hebrew, leads to the fairly obvious conclusion that it has Hebrew roots.)

The Greek word for bachelor is ἄγαμος, "Agamos." It's a compound word with the prefix "A" meaning "not" and the suffix "Gamos" meaning "marriage," indicating one who is not married.

However, Hebrew uses a term that implies emptiness. A man who is not married is described as empty. What is this emptiness about? Koheles Rabbah (9:9) conveys: Anyone who does not have a wife is without goodness, without a helper, without joy, without blessing, without atonement.

From a psychological perspective, marriage rounds out men and teaches them to be more empathic and self-aware. Men, being naturally more extroverted due to their aggressive instincts, may lack self-reflection without input from a woman who is more attuned to bonding, empathy, and affection.

According to researchers Monin and Clark (“Why Do Men Benefit More from Marriage Than Do Women? Thinking More Broadly About Interpersonal Processes

That Occur Within and Outside of Marriage”, Joan K. Monin & Margaret S. Clark, Published online: 27 May 2011, Springer Science+Business Media, LLC 2011):

Considering all these opportunities for relational wholeness and growth that marriage provides, the Hebrew term for "bachelor," meaning "empty one," succinctly expresses this concept.

Translations Courtesy of Sefaria, except when, sometimes, I disagree with the translation cool

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